At an LGBTQ+ Pride festival, a street preacher was speaking when a woman approached him, saying, “I wish Christians understood that love is love. You should follow Jesus Christ’s example, because He is love.” It’s true that Jesus embodies love. However, just because Jesus is love doesn’t mean He reflects all forms of love as we define them today.
In American culture, we often use “love” as an umbrella term for many kinds of affection and connection. Yet, in Jesus’ time, Greek and Hebrew had specific words to describe the different types of love between people. Understanding these distinctions gives us a clearer sense of what love truly means and the kind of love Christ represents. For example, my love for my husband would be called eros, while my love for my son would be storge. Both are forms of love, but they are not the same.
Let’s explore these differences more closely:
Eros – Eros refers to romantic and passionate love. Even though the word itself isn't used directly in the New Testament, it signifies the sexual and physical love shared between partners. This love is often celebrated in marriage relationships and is beautifully depicted in the Song of Solomon, where romantic love is a major theme. As it says in Song of Solomon 1:2: "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine."
Storge – Storge describes familial love, the natural affection found between parents and children, siblings, or close family members. While storge isn’t specifically named in Scripture, it’s implied in verses like Romans 12:10, which encourages believers to “be devoted to one another in love.” This type of love highlights the depth and devotion of family bonds.
Philia– Often known as brotherly love, philia refers to deep friendship, connection, and loyalty. It is the kind of love that unites Christians as brothers and sisters in Christ. Jesus emphasized the importance of philia in John 13:35, saying, “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” This love and loyalty build relationships that strengthen the community of believers. In fact, this perspective even influenced the name of Philadelphia, PA, aptly nicknamed the “City of Brotherly Love.”
Agape – Agape is the most perfect kind of love: unselfish, sacrificial, and unconditional. It’s the love God has for us and the love Christians are called to show others. Agape love is central to passages like John 3:16, where God’s love is powerfully demonstrated through Christ’s sacrifice, and 1 Corinthians 13, which describes the qualities of pure, godly love.
In today’s culture, “love is love” is often used as a catch-all phrase. But when we look closely, the Bible reveals that love has distinct expressions and purposes. Not all love is the same, nor are all forms of love celebrated equally. Understanding these differences can help us appreciate the various facets of love without imposing our own definitions on Christ’s intentions. In short, love is not just love.
By the author: Battles and Trials: A Fight for Deliverance shares Renikko Bivens' journey of overcoming addiction, same-sex attraction, and deep spiritual struggles. With honest insights on how faith, prayer, and supportive Christians helped her break free, this book provides practical advice and hope for those facing their own battles. Perfect for anyone seeking real transformation and freedom through Christ.
